One thing I’ve learned over the past year, over and over, is that expectations lead to disappointment. That is a statement worth listening to and embracing.
Expectations lead to disappointment.
I don’t say it to be negative. I state it to remind myself to be realistic. I am a ‘glass half full’ person. In fact, I’m pretty sure the glass is close to overflowing most of the time. Usually, that is a good way to think about things, except when things end up so much differently. You know, it is easy to build up in your mind how something will go and to watch it turn out nothing like you have planned. Don’t you ask yourself in these moments of disappointment “Why did you do this to yourself again?” (OK–I am realizing as I write that there are lots of people who plan for the worst, and they would say that they are wiser than I because if things don’t turn out as they envisioned, there will only be pleasant surprise. I don’t buy it, but I’ll let you go there if you must)
I am not going to expound at this point on what expectations have led to this post. Perhaps things will play out better than I could have envisioned. But for today, I am having to re-evaluate my expectations. I am asking myself “Why” did I expect things to follow a particular path. And I want to point out to myself, as much as anyone, what a better way to proceed would be, would have been.
The peaceful approach might not mean I like it, but it is less emotion-filled than the despair approach. I’ll work on keeping all I can in that glass!
Joy is the will which labors, which overcomes obstacles, which knows triumph.~ William Butler Yeats
Whether you think you can or think you can’t you’re right. - Henry Ford
The best way out is always through. ~ Robert Frost
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable. ~ Theodore N. Vail
Success consists of getting up just one more time than you fall. ~ Oliver Goldsmith
You must be the change you want to see in the world. - Mahatma Gandhi
Ms. Steen–excellent advice! I sometimes feel like I think too much about the ideal outcome of a situation, and forget to respond or even act! I get so caught up in the possibilities and the what-ifs, I forget to ground myself in the reality of the situation, which then, in turn, causes me to feel and react rashly when I realize all I’ve done is think about it. It’s all about balancing out the thinking, feeling, and responding…rarely an easy task for us idealists. 😉
Is THAT what we are? Yes, I suppose we are. 🙂