“You give but little when you give of your possessions.
It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.”
― The Prophet
They scrubbed the profanity off the wall left by vandals. She collected bags of trash alongside the road. He cooked a feast for the people with no meal of their own. They showed up when there was a need. There are many of us who show up with a checkbook or with our items to donate, but these are the people who truly show up — giving, as Gibran says, of themselves, not just their possessions. Gifts of money or possessions are important, for sure, but to give of myself is something I want to be sure I am doing this year.
“Girl I’m making him some chicken and rice and Y’all some soup…Do not even tell me no. Your life has a few challenges right now, I currently have few. I’ll text before dropping it off…” My friend, Candace, dropped everything to offer nourishment in a difficult time. “I’m going to make you my Jewish nana’s soup and drop it off tomorrow. I won’t stay, I know you need rest. I can even leave it on the porch.” My friend, Alicia, a young mother with plenty on her plate interrupted her life to prepare and deliver a nourishing pot of soup when I wasn’t feeling well. We don’t have many times that we really need anyone to do for us, and even then we would turn down most offers of help. I am so grateful for friends like Candace and Alicia, friends who don’t ask if they can do something, they just do it.
Are you uncomfortable yet? Are you a little nervous at what I might be suggesting you do someday soon? I don’t blame you. It isn’t easy for most of us to show up with food we’ve stopped to prepare (especially if we don’t cook much, but you can still purchase someone else’s cooking), but there are other ways of showing up, and what is easy for one might be difficult for another.
My friends, Candace and Alicia, sent those texts at particularly difficult times in my life. No question of whether I wanted them to bring food, they just did it — interrupting their lives to bring some nourishment to mine. My friend Sarah, a high school student, showed up to help with my children after school when I was dealing with some physical limitations many years ago. Even today, we have friends who show up to pick up the mail or take out the garbage when we are going to be out of town, our children show up to dogsit so we don’t have to spend money boarding our four-legged friend, and our friends offer us their gracious hospitality. We try to show up for others, too, and we can probably do better.
How have you shown up for a friend or a stranger? How have others shown up for you? Maybe you think you’ve truly given when you’ve written a check or a nice article, but Gibran’s assertion of what constitutes truly giving should inspire each of us, regardless of our station in life, to give in new ways. I plan it for myself and wish it for you.
Joy is the will which labors, which overcomes obstacles, which knows triumph.~ William Butler Yeats
Whether you think you can or think you can’t you’re right. - Henry Ford
The best way out is always through. ~ Robert Frost
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable. ~ Theodore N. Vail
Success consists of getting up just one more time than you fall. ~ Oliver Goldsmith
You must be the change you want to see in the world. - Mahatma Gandhi